“He is driving me crazy! He’s indecisive and can’t make plans. He never takes charge and just asks what I want to do. It’s getting annoying!”
It’s hard for a lot men to maneuver in today’s world. They’ve either learned to be passive being constantly surrounded by take charge, no nonsense women, or they think they’ll get backlash if they open a door or pull out a chair.
They want to make us happy, but they’re are afraid to try something without first getting the go ahead.
Women have trained men to act that way in a large part by constantly living in our masculine – thinking, doing, acting – energy and by rejecting their attempts to treat us as women.
This was one of the bad outcomes of the feminist movement. We built the modern man and now we find him annoying.
When it really comes down to it though, like my friend, most women want a man to take charge and make decisions in the relationship even if by day they are corporate CEOs.
The way to get your man to step up is to hold open the space. Lean back and let go of the reins. Give him a chance to take charge. And don’t criticize him when he tries.
It might take a while, because he’s used to being beat down. Or it might happen really fast.
What I told my friend was to tell her man, “It feels more comfortable when I know what we’re going to do. I don’t want to have to decide. I like walks, coffee…….what do you think?”
She immediately texted that to him and within minutes she happily told me that he suggested they go for a walk and then dinner.
Now they’ve been together for a while. She no longer finds him annoying and he’s happy taking charge and doing the planning.
Her simple act of getting into her feminine energy opened the space for him to reclaim his masculine energy and made her wildly attractive to him.
It just takes some simple shifts in your vibe like this to open up new possibilities with your current man or with the man you’re about to meet.