Why is it so hard to hear the word “No,” especially from a man?
To me, it’s because accepting “No” means that we have to drop it. It’s done. Finished. End of story.
Accepting “No” means we have to give up control.
What man wants to date his mother?
It’s scary to give up control because we’re afraid we’ll lose him.
In the end though, if we try to control him we’ll lose him anyhow.
It might be years later, it might be to work or disinterest. Or it might be to an affair. But trying to control a man will make him pull away either now or later.
In those moments when he says “No,” I want you to say matter-of-a-factly “OK” and then drop it. No crying, no pouting, no anger.
If you can’t keep from wanting to say more, then put your hand over your mouth.
Literally. Hand on mouth.
Then I want you to turn around, leave the room and immediately do something that makes you feel good – take a bath, go for a walk, go shopping, clean the sink.
I don’t promise that you’ll get your way.
But your man will feel the pressure lifted and you’ll draw him in by being different from all the other women who want to control him.
He’ll feel relaxed and comfortable around you – comfortable to express his feelings – because he knows you won’t try to convince him.
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