Have you ever been in a situation where you get along great with a man, have endless things to talk about, but don’t seem to be able to move the relationship forward?
You might even be sleeping with him, but he still keeps his distance.
If this is the case, you have probably slipped into the friend category.
There is only one way to get yourself out.
Establishing a deep, loving connection with a man comes from continually triggering his romantic emotions. In other words, you need to connect with his heart.
You do this in two ways.
First by leaning back. This means stop trying to make things happen, stop trying to figure out what he’s thinking or how to make things work.
Our brains want to figure things out like a puzzle, but emotions can’t be solved.
Leaning back will shift your vibe. Instead of feeling all of that energy coming towards him, he’ll feel some space to move forward himself.
Second, by learning to express yourself in a way that speaks to his heart.
You do this by talking about what’s going on inside of YOU. You express your feelings so that he’ll feel safe to express his.
This does not mean drama. It DOES mean becoming more sensual and aware of your emotions and environment and speaking from there.
If he asks you how your day was, saying, “Fine” or “I worked all day, then went to the gym and read a book” only speaks to his mind.
Instead, think of something that happened in the day that triggered a strong feeling inside of you, whether it was happiness, sadness, anxiety or something else.
You could say, “I felt so alive this morning when I left the gym” or “The colors in the sky made me feel so peaceful and dreamy” or “I felt so helpless when I saw that story about the plane accident.”
Yes, this means being vulnerable. And if you are like me, it’s scary to be that open.
That’s ok. That’s how you want to feel. Because your greatest strength is your vulnerability, and it is the only way to a deep connection with a man.
One thing that I want to address is that this isn’t a game, it isn’t Man Training 101. We’re not trying to manipulate him because that’s disrespectful to him and it won’t work.
Planning and strategizing ways to make him have feelings for you will project a vibe of need and clinginess. It’ll feel weird and unattractive to him.
It’s about you being authentic in a whole new way.
It’s about training YOURSELF to tap into your feminine energy, carry it to the surface and live there all the time, not just with him, but with everyone around you.
So lean back and express your inner self. Show him through your own vulnerability that it’s safe for him to open up to you.
This is the way to a deep, loving connection. Let go of control, open your heart.