Do you ever look at couples happily walking hand-in-hand and feel sad or hopeless?
Do you wonder why they can make things work and you are alone?
I know how that feels.
For the first year after my 18 year marriage broke up, whenever I’d see a couple together, especially an older couple, I would feel overwhelmingly sad and lonely.
I’d ask myself – why couldn’t my relationship work out? What’s wrong with ME? Will I ever be happy again?
I felt this way because I was coming from a place of helplessness. An attitude that life just happened to me, and I was on t
he receiving end.
You are the heroine of your own story. You can rescue your life and transform yourself from a place of helplessness to a place of power.
Whether you have recently broken up with someone, are in a relationship that isn’t moving forward or have been alone for a while, transformation of your situation starts with focusing on yourself.
Try doing the following:
- Find something that you are passionate about doing – painting a picture, gardening, pottery, writing, hiking, yoga. Something artistic or athletic that gets you into your creativity or senses is great. Take a class or just start doing it.
- Change your routine. Do things in a different order. Take a different route to work. Buy your groceries in a different store. This will help you to overcome your ine
rtia and really leave your old life and old attitude behind.
- Wear different colors that make you feel good or try different jewelry that makes you feel feminine. Wear red if your feeling sexy. Wear black if you feel mysterious. Get a stylish haircut. Find things that make you feel soft and feminine.
Focusing on changing external things in your life can really spark changes on your inside, which will be noticed by everyone around you!
If you are in a relationship where you’re not getting what you need, focusing on yourself will help you to lean back and shift your energy away from your man.
He’ll notice the shift and come towards you.
Focusing your energy on things that make you feel good will build your self confidence whether you’re in a relationship or not.
You’ll see that if you’re not getting what you need, you can give it to yourself. You don’t need a man to do it.
You can rescue yourself.
Your transformation from clingy and desperate to confident and strong will show in your whole vibe.
You’ll be a magnet to emotionally healthy men who want a woman who has her own life.
I focused on myself by wearing clothes that made me feel sexy, learning to indoor climb and drawing in chalk pastels.
I felt better about myself and learned that I could have fun no matter what.
Now when I look at couples together I smile and feel happy. I feel hopeful for the future, and know that it is in my control. I’m not helpless.
Transforming your inside can start by transforming things on the outside. Try it.
I know it will work for you. It did for me.